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Once in a while, I will write here in English, just in case someone new is looking. I am not translating the Portuguese posts. I am writing something new, something different.
Like, today, I was looking for a picture to put in the blog’s profile, and I realized that my best pictures are those who I am with my husband. I wonder why! That shouldn’t make any sense, but it does totally sense to me. Why? Let me tell you something about the bible.
It is written in the very beginning of the Bible, in Genesis 2:24 says That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh. If my husband and I are one flesh, why should I have a good picture of me by myself if half of me is missing? He is my half, he is the best part of me. Consequently, I look at my pictures with him together, we are such a beautiful couple.. but alone, I don’t think I am half as beautiful when I’m with him.
How about you? Have you ever noticed that? maybe I am just used to see our pictures together, that when I see one by myself it is weird. I like thinking that way though.
Look, you might be thinking that I am one of those ultra-romantic people; you have mistaken me… I am not. I am exactly the opposite, at least I used to be. My husband, on the other hand, used to be one of those very romantic guys; not so much anymore, I am the one to blame. Apart from this, I think we have adjusted ourselves to be even more like one another.
One flesh from the Bible also means that one way of thinking, one objective of life, one way; otherwise, how can it be one flesh if they have two ways of thinking, two different goals of life, two ways? It cannot be. It is or it is not one flesh, it is or it is not one body, it is or it is not one union.
The relationship, a marriage has to be simple that way. If you cannot come to an agreement in the simplest thing, how will it work when life requires so much more of you?
Even, when something happened that wasn’t a choice of neither of you, and the consequences are not the one you were expecting, how to deal with that? Many couples won’t overcome it; they’ll fall apart. Because I believe, they weren’t one flesh since the beginning. The commitment is to make it work, no matter what; along the way, people just forget “no-matter-what” part, and keep only their own way, only what matters to them.
Even when so people go astray during the marriage, it is possible to forgive; I am not telling to forget; because the no-matter-what part includes when people go astray and do what they weren’t supposed to. The ones who have stayed put will have to deal with all the garbage that one will bring back. No-matter-what, right? One flesh.
It is not a joke get married. It is not just a ring with a big diamond stone on it, it goes so much further than rock won’t surpass… Your love, your commitment cannot be measured up by a precious stone. It is measured up for how many no-matter-what will stick you together.
Prayer: Lord Jesus, help me dealing with no-matter-what part of my marriage. Make my heart bigger, so does with my partner; so we can build up our marriage in a no-matter-what way. Be in the center of our relationship, be our guide, in your name, Amen.



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